LETTERS FROM LOVE — With Special Guest Ky Dickens!
Getting to know the unseen world
Dear Lovelets,
Last week, our topic — the question that we each brought to the Spirit of Unconditional Love — was about allowing ourselves to be seen. I have taught a lot of creativity workshops over the years, and I know from intense personal experience that for many people (and especially women), the fear of being seen can be more terrifying than the fear of not being seen.
I remember when Rayya was on the verge of publishing her memoir HARLEY LOCO, she came to my house one day literally trembling with anxiety. When I asked her why, she said that her book was coming out in a week and she was mortified that, in her words, “everyone will see me now.”
Of course that’s the whole point of memoir, to reveal yourself — and Rayya knew that, even as she’d been writing the book — but it’s one thing to dream of writing your story, and another thing entirely to put it out there in the world for people to judge, condemn, ignore, attack, project themselves onto, you name it.
“I just can’t figure out why I’m so freaked out!” she’d say. “I should be excited about my book coming out, so why do I keep crying?”
I gave her a big hug that day and said “It’s okay, honey. You’re just terrified.”
And she immediately relaxed — like, Oh that’s it, right! I’m just terrified, that’s all!
Because being seen is terrifying. Of course it is!
So many of you last week found guidance in your letters about how important it is to overcome your terror of being seen, and to let people look at what you have created, or to hear about your dreams, or to know where you are hurting. Many, many of you were instructed that it’s vitally important for you to learn how to say “I need help” — perhaps the scariest admission of all.
Oh, how brave it is to be seen!
This week, we turn our attention from the subject of being seen to considering that aspect of our universe that is unseen. We turn our attention to worlds beyond what our senses can perceive — to what our intuition knows, even if we can’t prove it. We turn to the story hidden beneath the story. We turn to an intelligence that guides us, even when nobody else can hear the voices we may hear.
And who better to lead this contemplation than our special guest, the magnificent Ky Dickens, whose podcast THE TELEPATHY TAPES has changed forever what many of us believe about the nature of consciousness itself, and what “reality” even means. And with her letter as a brave example (talk about letting yourself be seen!) we will ask ourselves this week what we know to be true — what we REALLY know to be true — about the unseen world.
Let’s keep going!
Love,
Your Lizzy
Dear Love, what would you have me know today about the unseen world?
Dearest angel, just because you can’t see it doesn’t mean you can’t hear it. And you can hear it. You’ve been able to hear it for a long time.
So listen. Listen. That’s all we ever ask of you. We ask you to get quiet, and we ask you to listen.
Let’s go back to last year, when you were alone in the dark. I’m not talking about all those times in your life when you FELT like you were alone in the dark, metaphorically speaking. I’m talking about when you signed up to do a five-day darkness meditation in that silent room dug out of the mountains of Oregon. Five days of literal, utter darkness and complete solitude — where you would not see a thing, would not hear much, and the only other voice you would encounter was when the facilitator brought you food once a day and checked to make sure you were okay.
Why did you do this? Why did you go into the darkness for five days? Especially when your friend Margaret told you that she would happily take your money instead and lock you in a closet in her house and shove some food at you once a day, if that’s what you really wanted?!
You did it because two years ago a friend mentioned that she had done a darkness retreat, and as soon as she described the experience, you heard our voice say, “You need to do this, Lizzy. This is one of the things you came to Earth to do.”
And because you have spent such a long time now listening to that voice (my voice, our voice, the voice of what you know to be Unconditional Love, the inner voice, the unseen voice from the unseen world, the intelligence that wants to communicate with you), you have come to believe in it, and you follow it. When we tell you to do something, you do it. You do it not because of obedience (obedience being a misguided fear-based religious concept you were taught in childhood) but because of ALIGNMENT (alignment being all about love, care, respect, kindness, what is best for all, and what the yogis call “union”).
Anyway, this is what you knew to do. You knew to listen to us. Even though you can’t see us or prove us. Maybe especially because of that.
You listen.
You know that when you align yourself to my voice, our voice, and you take our direction, then you do not have to live anymore in fear, doubt, insecurity, or ambivalence. When you listen to us, your life becomes simple.
This does not mean that your life becomes easy — in fact, very often we ask you to do things that feel very difficult to you. Yet life does become simple.
Let’s pause for a moment, darling, and talk about the difference between easy and simple. Something can be very difficult, like running a marathon for instance, but the basic idea of it can also be very simple: you just run, for a certain amount of time, and you don’t stop. That’s not easy, but it’s simple. This is also how you experience listening to our voice: the things we ask you to do are not always easy, but they are always simple.
For example, we asked you to write All the Way to the River, which was an incredibly difficult assignment for you. But it was also simple. Our direction was this: tell the complete, unvarnished truth about what happened between you and Rayya, and leave nothing out. Simple! So you did it. And every day, when it was difficult, you followed our direction when we told you to keep going (there’s a reason “Let’s keep going” is one of our signature messages to you) and you did it.
And then we asked you to put that book out into the world no matter what the response might be. And you did that. Not easy, but simple.
And we asked you to tell the truth every time anyone asked you a question about the book, and you did it. Not easy, but simple. (We always ask you to tell the truth. It’s always simplest to tell the truth, no matter what.)
Or sometimes we may ask you NOT to do something. In your case, we often ask you, someone recovering from sex and love addiction, who struggles with codependency, not to involve yourself with another person. We ask you to step away. We ask you to leave them alone. We ask you to believe us, when we say that’s not gonna be a good match. We ask you to not leap in to fix, manage, control, or rescue — or seduce. We ask you to trust that they can find their own path, and so can you. We ask you to stand down. Again, this direction is not easy for you, but it is also simple.
But let’s go back to that mountain in Oregon last year, where we told you to go sit in utter darkness for five days of silence, with nothing whatsoever to distract your mind. Was it easy? No, but it was simple. Just stay there in the dark, was the instruction. Just go be there in the nothingness. What could be simpler?
This is the part we want to remind you of: the moment that door closed into dark and you knew it would not open for 120 hours, we told you, “We’re right here with you and we aren’t going anywhere.”
That’s when you knew that this time of darkness and silence was not just an assignment to test your fortitude, but a divine appointment. We wanted to get you alone so we could talk to you, uninterrupted. We had so much to tell you! So much to teach you! And every lesson began with these words, which you heard deep in your being: “Listen!”
“Listen,” we told you. “We need you to understand that everyone on Earth is suffering and nobody is in trouble. Don’t forget this! Don’t judge anyone. Everyone is suffering and nobody is in trouble.”
“Listen,” we told you. “We need you to stop worrying about other people and calling that love. Worry and love are two entirely different and unrelated energy fields — stop merging them and pretending they are the same thing. They are not. Love is love, it is infinite and powerful. Worry is your own unhealed anxiety, and it is limiting and degrading to everyone involved. So stop.”
“Listen,” we told you. “If you had any idea how powerful every single human soul was — every single human soul — you would never worry about anyone again.”
“Listen,” we told you. “People don’t need you to fix, manage, or control them. They need you to believe in them. It is so rare that anybody believes in anybody. Start believing in people! It’s so important! Anything less is an insult.”
“Listen,” we told you. “We did not send you to Earth School alone. You are surrounded by helpers — seen and unseen. Ancestors, angels, spirit councils, guides, loved ones who have passed over, perfect strangers, dear friends. You are so AIDED. You are always, always AIDED.”
“Listen,” we told you. “Death is no big deal because nobody leaves. There’s nowhere to go.”
“Listen,” we told you. “Listen. We love you. We are right here. All you have to do is ask for help and we will help you, but you have to listen. Tune your ear to us and don’t untune it. We cannot be lost.”
“Listen,” we told you. “We brought you here to the darkness because we wanted to show you that we are always, always, always here. We wanted to show you that you can strip away everything you have — every comfort, every sensory delight, all your friends, your reassuring touchstones of security, everything, everything can be gone — and the only thing left will be us. This voice. This guidance. You wouldn’t even have to possess your hearing anymore to hear us — because you don’t hear us with your ears. We are speaking to you from somewhere inside yourself. Where else would we come from? From the pages of someone else’s scripture, someone else’s divine revelation or interpretation? From the voices of cultural leaders, priests, gurus, teachers? From those who raised you, or those who try to love you? How could we make any of those outside forces the fountain of your wellbeing, when all those things and people are fragile, misleading, temporal? Authority figures have their own agendas. Even those who love you the most have their own paths to live — they cannot be with you always, but we will be with you always. Listen.”
And where was that guidance ever proven for you more than in the five days of darkness, wherein our loving conversation with you never ended? Wherein — without help from any psychedelic drug, or breathwork, or fasting, or teachers, or complex postures — we just showed up for you. Our voice was with you the entire time, teaching you, healing you, loving you, teasing you, directing you. We showed you that you were not sent to Earth School to face these challenges alone — in fact, that “alone” is the one thing you can never be.
What we showed you in the dark is that the unseen world teems with life. We showed you that what is unseen is far more rich, layered, and REAL than what is seen. We took you on tours of past lifetimes; we showed you your death, and how it could be just as simple as taking off an old coat; we showed you why you chose your family, and why you have needed to step away from them at times.
We showed you where you are powerless and where you have influence — and where you have to stop leaking and squandering away what power and influence you DO have by trying to control things that you cannot control. We showed you how to keep your focus.
Darling, we showed you that we are always here — that you can travel to the ends of the Earth, and you will never not find us. Go there and roam — to the inside, unseen world. It is vast. The Everything. The Everywhen. It belongs to you, and you belong to it.
Know this, and you need never struggle again.
Simple, simple, simple.
Let’s keep going. We have so much more to show you.
Prompt
To be part of this community is by definition to embrace the existence (or at least accept the possibility) of a force that we will never be able to see, hear, or feel in the flesh. So we’re halfway there!
This week, we are contemplating our trust in the unprovable — a mysterious intelligence beyond physical form. The source of our instinctive knowing. The unseen hand that can’t and needn’t be rationalized.
When you’re ready to get still and quiet, try writing down this question, and see what comes: Dear Love, what would you have me know about the unseen world?